Are you into casual sex but not into touching strangers? The no fluff nature of being FWB can be amazing — or it can become the new reason you’re seeing a therapist if done incorrectly. Maybe it’s time you tried out a friends with benefits relationship.
Friends don’t buy each other bouquets of flowers but they do cat sit while you’re away.
Keep the romance limited and just be naked friends.
“It’s important to have a clear understanding by both individuals,” says my friend Kyle.
You both have to acknowledge the casual nature of this relationship which may mean making a flow chart of what you both expect and want.
If you picture a potential FWB in your wedding party, then casual isn’t in your wheelhouse.
Go for the friend who you won’t think about daily and who’s opinion on your life matters on a surface level. Being public about your FWB can illicit way too many opinions from mutual friends.This is a behind closed doors, need-to-know basis kind of fling.If you need to analyze the FWB situation, maybe it’s not for you — but you can tell your best friend of course.If one of you has feelings or develops them, this isn’t going to work.If that is the case with you or you think it might be the case with your feel-good friend, you need to address it, like friends do. This is your opportunity to experiment and discuss sex with a person you already trust, so take advantage of that and get feedback on contraception, kinks, emotional boundaries, and anything you might want to experiment with.The most successful FWB are typically when there’s no pressure or obligation of fidelity.