She’s had my Facebook password since I’ve had an account. He said he’d been adding me on Facebook but I’d always decline his requests. After we reunited, he showed me emails he’d sent trying to contact — and we both love to draw. You wouldn’t have believed we hadn’t been around each other for 12 years.
One day, after I got my Facebook privileges back, he added me as a friend. The idea of “getting to know him” seemed strange because we are so much alike. I stayed home a lot because my mom didn’t trust me, and most of the kids my age were hooked on heroin, so it was hard to find friends.
offer a range of possible explanations for it, including a primordial feeling of always having “belonged” to the estranged relative, a sense of wanting to experience the bonding missed out on during childhood, or simply an overwhelming closeness based on similarities: like meeting a mate who was designed for you in a science lab.
Perhaps couples and notes that he’s only had a few father-daughter couples speak out, speculating that many of them fear that others will assume the daughter must have been abused in childhood (it should be said that when these unions lead to children, those children can face potentially serious difficulties as a result of the genetic implications of incest, even if some online communities downplay theseestrangement.
What was your family like when you were growing up?
My parents had me when they were 18 — they met in high school and I was conceived on prom night.
They were serious for about six months but broke up while my mom was still pregnant with me. I think my mom’s psychological problems meant the relationship never really worked out.
She has bipolar disorder and some other mental health issues.They just weren’t happy and didn’t really keep in contact after I was born. When she’s manic it’s hard to know what she’s going to say.After I was born she had a nervous breakdown and couldn’t take care of me, so I lived with her grandparents until I was about 2. My abandonment issues really hit when I was a teenager.I think that’s part of the reason we’ve never been close: We didn’t bond when I was ababy. My mom and my stepfather took a break because they were fighting so much and I cried the entire time he was gone. Near the end of the time my parents had joint custody of me I had a stepdad.Did you have any contact with your father when you were a child? She asked me how I could miss someone I hadn’t been with for such a long time. My mom’s always picked the wrong guy out of the crowd and she’s had a couple of divorces. I missed him, which was weird because we didn’t have much of a relationship. He took good care of my mom but she went through one of her stages again, so it ended.He briefly came back into my life when I was about 3 or 4 and I saw him on weekends until I was about 5. When I was about 15 he emailed my mom saying he’d like to see me. I’m still not really close with my current stepfather even though they’ve been together for ten years. She had another husband who went crazy and tried to kill her. Then she got with my brother’s dad and they dated for a while but when my brother was born the dad didn’t want anything to do with him, so I helped my mom raise him.